I’m trying to avoid New Year resolutions this year. I normally make a whole heap of unattainable goals for the forthcoming year. They start off with a determined confidence that I’ll see them through right to the end of the year then they fizzle out like a tired sparkler by about March. Instead I’ve decided that to make some more achievable goals for 2016 that are less chore-like and more about loving life! Making the mother of all lists of things you want to change is never going to be productive. It’ll just get you down thinking of all the negative things. Change rarely happens overnight so there’s no point trying to become a professional scuba diver, learn to drive a tank, lose a stone, quit eating crisps, stop biting your nails, and have an allotment all in one go. It’ll just blow your mind and you’ll feel like a failure when it doesn’t
Wanting to make your life better, happier, fuller, easier and more enjoyable can only be a good thing but just little steps towards each goal can make such a difference.
2015 was quite a year for me. When people ask me what I’ve been up to I normally reply with ‘not much’ but when I think about it I have actually done loads this year. I ran the London marathon, got a boyfriend, went travelling, swapped snowboarding for skiing for the first time, and my job moved to an entirely new city! Life is for living and although I could do with winning the lottery to actually do everything and go to all the places I’d love to it doesn’t have to cost a fortune to feel like you’re actually living life to it’s fullest.
I don’t really want to make any resolutions, just build on the things that will bring happiness, health and fun into my life.
I have been loving writing my little blog for the past 18 months. It’s a really fun hobby and because I’m such an independent person it gives me time to do something for myself where I get to be creative and actually take photos that aren’t work related. It’s also made me look after my skin a bit more and the blogging community can be so supportive. When you have a skin condition it can feel like you’re the only person in the world suffering with it and you feel self-conscious and like a bit of an outsider. I’ve met so many people through blogging who have similar problems with Eczema as me or just sensitive skin and it’s great to be able to talk to other people, discover new products and suggest ways other people can help themselves. In 2016 I will make a massive effort with my blog, which leads me to my next aim…
My skin has been HORRIFIC recently. I have yet ANOTHER dermatologist appointment in January which I doubt will make much difference. Before Christmas I was really naughty and even though I knew what I was eating didn’t agree with me or my skin I ate it anyway. WHY?! It’s so stupid. For a few minutes of taste satisfaction I’ve had weeks of skin misery. Absolute chump. I think half my problem has been not being prepared with meals so next year I’m going to make a conscious effort to eat more eczema-friendly foods, more organic food and try to work out exactly what it is I’m eating that’s upsetting my insides. I was diagnosed with IBS a few years ago and I know (sort of) the trigger foods for this and although it is really hard to avoid them it makes SUCH a difference.
I did a dairy exclusion diet about 6 years ago and the difference was unbelievable so I just need to be prepared with my food, take my own shizzle to work, and not get caught out with my pants down so to speak. Preparation is key! I can also use my blog as a sort of online diary to chart progress so that ties in my first goal of 2016 too. Perfect Rodders!
Before Christmas I had a builder in to do some work to my bedroom and it forced me to have a bit of a clear out with some of the random crap that I’ve collected over the years. It made me realise how much stuff I have that I don’t use or that I could donate to someone who actually needs it so I think over 2016 I will be making a massive effort to move out the old stuff so there’s room for lots of new things.
This isn’t just what I need to do with all the clothes I no longer wear (the ones I keep ‘just in case’, because let’s face it- who knows when you’ll need that ten year old My Little Pony t-shirt…) but also with my life in general. I’m so ridiculously busy all the time, work takes at least ten hours out of my day five days a week and although I love what I do most of the time it makes it so hard to see the people I love the most or do half the things I want to do or need to do. I feel like I’ve neglected my family and old friends a lot this year and I need to make more room for them. I think if I can try and catch up with people I haven’t seen last year at least once this year it’ll make a big difference. Equally this means that
toxic friendships need to go too. People change and move apart. Just because I don’t call every week or text back straight away or tell people EVERY detail of my life doesn’t mean I don’t care about them. Everyone who knows me knows I’m late for everything, rubbish at texting when I’m busy, double book on a regular basis, and I pack WAY too much into a day. Life gets in the way of relationships sometimes but the people that understand you the most and care about your friendship will be the ones you see once a year but when you do meet up it’s like nothing has changed. I have a few friends in London who I haven’t been to visit at all in 2015 but I love them so much and they haven’t held this against me.
If there’s people in your life who make you feel bad about yourself and you just can’t seem to please maybe it’s time to just give them some space. If you know you’re rubbish at keeping in touch aim to make one last effort and if it’s still not good
enough maybe there’s a reason you’re no longer close. We can’t be BFFs with everyone and why spend time with people that make you feel worthless when you could be with people who make you feel amazing?!
If you have a busy life but it’s full of the things you love then who cares if you’re not always free. My weekends have been manic for the last few months but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love horse riding and I love being out and about. As long as you’re happy doing what you’re doing it doesn’t matter if you occasionally miss out on other stuff. Equally I know I’m not perfect and I need to make more of an effort with my family and friends, I can’t expect them to be bothered if I’m not!
Running the London marathon was awesome last year. I got to do something in memory of my Mum, raise money for charity and get fit. SOOOOO many positives from one goal. I have really let my exercise slip since my job changed but I just need to get up earlier and move my exercise with me. Running is free and can be done anywhere, and although nothing will compare to doing the marathon having a goal will give me something to aim towards and actually get me to move my butt! If you feel like you’ve hit a bit of an exercise wall then maybe sign up to something with a friend or join a new club. That way you have something to work towards or something social and fun to go to. I have done pole dancing and yoga classes in the past and they were amazing. Perhaps food for thought this year too. I might try and book a yoga retreat with a chum- that way I’ll get to do something that’s good for me and be a good pal too!
I bloody love holidays! Next year I want to go to at least two countries I’ve never been before. We’re so lucky in the UK that so many other European countries are on our doorstep, there’s also a tonne of places in the UK I’ve never been before! This year was a good effort for someone with no time and on a budget- I managed to pack in six different countries over the year and I hope this continues into 2016.
Happy, healthy new year everyone!
Ski-ya later 2015!!!